The Model

The Model

Every cloud has a silver lining.

Every cloud has a silver lining.

It’s a very simple formula-life, but we complicate and confuse ourselves very competently and frequently.

All of us need and require the same things in varying amounts. We will all have our own preferences, habitual patterns and  coping mechanisms when faced with adversity but we are all effected by similar external factors in.

Chryseis is different from other support, transformation and psychological services because we  recognize that for many people a casual, informal interaction can be the best learning environment to help improve lives; making changes for the better.

We know and understand the varying and various schools of thought in relation to human psychology but know that one model does not fit all at all times. We have the skills to vary the provision depending on client needs. We are up to date in the understanding of the neuro/bio/physio/chemical make up of the mind and how it effects us. We have an in depth knowledge of the holistic view that must, of course, include sociological, philospophical, evolutionary and spiritual influences upon our lives.

We can therefore provide nutritional nurturing and knowledge to help each client ‘Know Thyself and Thy will know the Universe’ (The Delphic Oracle; if wished for) or we will simply show you or create the map so you can find the way out of your troubles creating more resilience, more gratitude for what we already have, happiness and provide you with more tools to manage.

Only you are in control of you but we have techniques and skills we will share to re-empower you!

New life and beautiful growth watched over by strong big cat.

New life and beautiful growth.

Even our 'shadows' can dance!

Even our ‘shadows’ can dance!

The beauty after the storm.

The beauty after the storm.

Client Story; Jasmine

Jasmine was referred to me when her life had turned to seeming chaos. She was from another London borough on the other side of town and was pretty much a ‘lost soul’ displaced and in great need of support and care.
She was in hiding as she was escaping from an arranged marriage. She was and is a highly intelligent and very competent and able young lady who had been top in so many classes and had run the debating team and had really loved and benefitted from her education.
Her family wanted her to marry someone she didn’t and the culture clash that resulted from her first generation immigrant parents and her own Western upbringing was a hurdle they couldn’t cross.
Her mother had physically assaulted her and we knew the family would be searching for her and the consequences were possibly terrifying. The law at the time and still in so many cases now was not competent in dealing with such matters so we had to use whatever resources we could.

we all have dark times but they have their own beauty.

we all have dark times but they have their own beauty.

Jasmine was given housing in a Women’s Refuge-but had never lived without her family and was really not used to sharing a room-especially with another abused female. She started to go off the rails even further with her new found freedoms and whereas she had been culturally bound to dress ‘appropriately’-she was now getting it wrong and putting herself at risk. She had interests in personas from online gaming and enjoyed meetings in relation to these but would wear the fancy dress to n fro-very often revealing far more than what is deemed even socially acceptable in the West. We had discussions and did some work around Sex and Relationships and looked at ways of ‘dressing up’ more healthily.
As with all relationships I learnt an awful lot from Jasmine. The Asian culture do not always buy in to the idea of sharing and reflecting and Jasmine explained very eloquently that she didn’t want or need to talk about those things that had gone wrong for her. We mainly explored how to move forward using her numerous and varied skills and abilities. I believed she needed to continue on her academic pathway even though it has been severely disrupted and we got her through, just, her ‘A’ levels.
Jasmine and I were officially meant to stop working at a certain age but having built a strong bond I did not allow that to be broken. She had so few people she could trust and turn to in her life that we continue a relationship to this day.
She did not get in to the University Course that we went to the Open Day together but she has now completed a degree and is a rounded and emotionally whole young lady in employment with various hobbies and past times.

How we can work together

This is primarily up to you! Client led as it were. I personally prefer face to face work where we can interact at as natural a level as possible; hearing and seeing all those posssibly unconscious behaviours that may be missed over the phone. But I am happy to work over the phone and may consider Skype. Words on a screen never say it all and we may not need it all said-you may have picked up on this point when reading The Model, so if preferable, even if just at first, we can e-mail.

We will formulate a contract that can be revised but which will give us some bounderies and limits on what we want to achieve together and Chryseis will charge at the mutually agreed rate-we work with a sliding scale of costs and this would be expected within a month of any work done. The intial assessment of each other is of course FREE.

Who’s Chris?

Christine McLaren - Founder of ChryseisChristine – Founder and principle practitioner.

Chris has wide and deep knowledge of what it is to be human both currently and across our evolutiony past and thus recognises the interaction and differences between genetic/instinctual behaviours and cultural/social man made behaviours. This has led her to explore all areas from the individual’s neurobiochemistry and general biology, family relations and status, community/village practices and societies politics as well as international issues.

Trained in Psychology and Counselling with a close affiliation to Psychoanalysis she recognises the body as the unconscious mind and the interplay, of this, with the psyche as crucial to self awareness and thus physical, mental and emotional health. She supported this with studies in Anthrolpogy and Sociology.

Christine has taught for over 20 years across all stages of development and has studied various forms of education. Read full profile

Client Story: Amy

Amy’s Story

I met Amy when she was released from a young person’s psychiatric ward at the local authority offices.  I had a brief case history verbally from the social and drug’s workers about her having been found overdosed in her mother’s flat.

Amy had been adopted by her Uncle when her psychiatrically ill mother had not been able to manage the parenting of her two children (Amy and I later visited Brian, her brother in an intensive adult psychiatric unit to keep the relationship and bond as a comfort however distressing).

Amy had been a good student at a strict Catholic School and had adhered to healthy and supporting boundaries within the adoptive home until the age of 14-15 when her difficulties had started to surface. Amy literally went off the rails eventually becoming a Class A using prostitute, housed and kept doped by a manipulative ‘pimp’. Read the full story

Charlie’s Commendation

We all need to regress and be looked after sometimes.

We all need to regress and be looked after sometimes.

Christine worked with Charlie for over a year and he wrote about their time together.

Charlie described the time they were together as “brilliant”. Charlie stressed that he found their relationship very supportive and said Chris gave him “a hell of lot.”  She listened to him when his friend died and was extremely understanding around the “strained” relationship he had with his mother.  Chris offered Charlie a wealth of insight and he described her as a “very nurturing woman who is great at listening.”  He spoke of the very good times they shared and discussed how as people with similar minds and interests they enjoyed talking, and he said that Chris has “an incredible brain.”  Chris was always open and honest with him.

Charlie said that if he had ever gone off the rails as a younger man there is nobody else he would want to be with.  Charlie said that Chris is a very warm person who cares so much about people’s welfare.  Although Chris is always very careful not to breach confidentiality with Charlie in terms of her professional work with young people, she has discussed Larry, the young man who is serving a prison sentence for murder.  Charlie said “without Chris I doubt Larry would be doing what is doing now, (as a result of Chris’s encouragement he has taken classes in prison and is now starting to teach other inmates) and would not be the man he is becoming now.” Larry’s Story to be read elsewhere.

Nelly’s Commendation

Sometimes all we need is more fun.

Sometimes all we need is more fun.

Christine has worked with Nelly and her family for several years….Nelly described Chris as “smart, fun, bubbly, understanding, a person who does not miss anything, a very good listener, reliable and loyal.”  Nelly said that Chris is able to take criticism  and challenges. Nelly said she will whinge to Chris because she knows that Chris is a good listener.

Nelly said that Chris is an exceptionally intelligent woman who has a high volume of knowledge which she has put into practice as a parent and in her professional life.

Nelly has seen Chris enable her son John, 23 to look at something from a completely different perspective without realising that he is doing so, and that Chris undoubtedly uses this skill with other people she works with.  Nelly said Chris is a very down to earth person who does not like to give up on anything, and she is exceptionally encouraging of people.  She said “You don’t see Chris as an age, she’s a person, and people of any age can relate to her, but she can also be authoritative.”   Nelly said that Chris will listen and will not judge, and she will be able to encourage people to look at the good in their lives and to build on these.  Nelly understands that so many of the people that Chris currently works with cannot envisage a future for them selves or see a way out of their predicaments.  Chris is creative and full of ideas and just as she does in her current role, she will endeavour to help them see things from a different perspective.

Nelly said that she has seen the way Chris interacts with people, for example her own children and her grandson Kevin, and feels that she is very skilled at building up bonds and trusting relationships.  Additionally Chris has extremely high energy levels and is very sporty and fit.  She loves recreational activities and has plenty of experience of engaging youth in this type of setting.

there’s nothing that she hasn’t seen.”